Thomas Grubba, LMFT
Deciding to seek therapy can seem overwhelming and yet could be the most important decision you make for yourself and your loved ones. Facing our fears and recognizing we need help facing life’s challenges is the first step in healing our wounded self or our dysfunctional family interactions. I see this desire to change or get to the root of our difficulties as a sign of mental health, not as weakness or “being broken.” I believe that everyone is doing the best that they can with the tools they have and change happens when we realize our ways of being in the world are no longer working for us.
Before people begin to change, I believe they need to feel emotionally safe, heard, and validated — from that place, I see clients begin to feel open to experimenting with new ways of being in relationship with themselves and with others.
I work with individuals, couples, children and families struggling with anxiety, grief and loss, depression, trauma, low self-esteem, and life transitions to find new insights for coping with the challenges they are facing. From a person centered, attachment-informed approach I strive to create a warm, accepting relationship where clients can explore their deepest fears and greatest hopes and create new way of relating to themselves and others.
My clinical orientation is a blend of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). For me these modalities speak to the deepest parts of us, the way we attach to others and feel safety in relationship and our interpsychic processes that mold our responses to relationships. It’s my belief that each of us is a system within larger systems; understanding how our parts relate to a greater whole is key to understanding the Self and a rich, rewarding life journey.